Dating a single father with kids
One of the major factors that has held me back from looking for a new partner is how surprisingly anxious I am about the whole process.
In particular, I worry about how it will affect my boys.
This kind of amazing camaraderie made me really look at past relationships I'd previously kept duct-taped in a box and tossed the way-back part of the closet.
Add a failed marriage and couple of kids into the mix, and it's a whole new level of "it's complicated." One of the hardest parts of being a single dad is that it can be really, really lonely.
Sure, you’ve got your child (or, in my case, two boys), but to be honest, when children are really little, they’re not that good at holding up their end of a conversation.
Suddenly the jokes seemed a little creepy, and although I actively pumped the brakes on making them, those familiar with my menagerie of hot dad puns rose a skeptical eyebrow. Hotness aside, there's some unexpected things that happen when you date a single dad.
I've dated ("dated") divorced dudes before, which might be a little similar, but this relationship marks my first with a parent.I'd like to say this exercise made me resurrect toxic romantic relationships as healthy friendships, but that hasn't quite happened yet (and with some specific ones, I honestly can't see that ever happening).More than anything, I think it's helped me recognize the hard fact that all humans have faults and, in general, good intentions. (Though to be fair, I can't take credit for the calendar.What it boiled down to was having kids made scheduling things a bit difficult. And that really sucked – because there were a couple of times when I caught myself thinking about how I could dodge my responsibilities as a dad…