Red flags dating divorced men
Instead, what I see too often is a man falls head over heels in love and gets himself in too deep, too soon. Her favorite pattern is leopard and her jewelry looks like it came from a fishing lure box. Feels terrible about herself, so must do what she can to get validation that she's worthy and desirable. These women can have a baby at the snap of a finger, love sex, preferably during ovulation, and just won't use birth control. Counting on your soft heart, her story mirrors a Greek tragedy. Will drop you when she finds "someone better," even though we all know he's much worse. Before his heart has palpitated a dozen times, the part of him that loves to rescue and fix kicks in and he makes plans to remodel her house, buy her a car, pay for some plastic surgery, and take her on some cool vacations. She's charming as all get-out, and sex and attention are the bait. Hell-raiser and non-conformist, no matter her age, she's 17 for life. When she feels you're off your game you'll find her talking with someone else. They'll get pregnant and may want you to stick around and help raise the child, but most importantly, she'll appreciate the child support you'll be paying. Abandoned by her parents, she was raised in an orphanage where they forgot to feed her and boy is she hungry now - for you to support her. Men tell me it makes them feel good and needed to help a woman with her problems, but as soon as the paint is dry on the last room in the house the dream may well become a nightmare as he realizes Miss Wonderful is really a crazy train wreck - come on, you know it happens! You'll get it all for a very high price - including your bruised and damaged heart. So DO NOT quickly move in, get married, make capital purchases for her, pay her bills, do more for her than change a light bulb or buy anything together including puppies, kittens and other items difficult to divide or leave. You can see by her expensive presentation that she is into the finest material goods and experiences money can buy. Don't be surprised if she texts 14 other guys while dating you, looking to see who will ante up the most. But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface. We would be wise to observe their reactions, heed their reasoned warnings, and consider their hesitation.
Red Flag 1: Beware the Rebound: be careful of the divorced man who is only recently out of his marriage.Unless of course you’re looking for a fling (like him), looking to experiment (as is he), or looking to get your heart broken.Be particularly cautious if he’s already looking for Spouse #2.Remember that mention of the divorced dad who swept me off my feet?
All I can say is this: Listen to your gut, listen to your gut, listen to your gut – Be sure to take your time to get to know him, his family, his friends, his co-workers. There is never a good reason to rush a relationship – especially if you have kids.
To make things easier, I have divided the red flag issues into different departments ...