Relationship advice for dating an older man
I had been learning songs on guitar for years, just by getting the sheet music and copying the notes, so why would this be any different? Lesson 1: Attraction is Not Something You're Taught. You just need to learn from someone that knows how to explain it right. But the funny thing about attraction is that it does work by predictable laws.
First, it's not the same as just learning the "notes" on sheet music. You need someone who's been through all the same things you have. Next, I learned that as much as I'd wanted to MAKE women interested in me, it doesn't work that way. On the other hand, when I learned the right steps to build attraction naturally, I didn't have to do all that needy and insecure stuff I used to - which never worked, anyway. Learn the laws, and you understand the "hidden code..." And then you'll get more and more success.
Now, by teasing her first, all of a sudden she feels (from your words and actions) that you might be more challenging. Maybe you’re not just another guy out there looking to get laid tonight.
Well, I can tell you from years of experience that you're not alone, and you're not as lost as you might feel.
I'd ask guys what they were doing to get women interested, and most of them couldn't explain it. And the other cool thing is that when you know how this "emotional code" works, you'll be able to repeat your successes. Here are a couple tips I learned along the way that will help you...
I call this technique "Tease to Please", and it works because it short-circuits a woman's usual defense mechanisms against meeting 'strange' men.
Instead of complimenting a woman when you first meet her, take the opportunity to gently tease her.
Don't make it cruel, but tease like you would on the playground as a kid: "You're not bad looking ... I don't want to catch anything from you." By using the Dating Dynamics methods, you will flip her Trust switch in her head.
When you feel like you're not as good as other guys are with women, it hits you right in the middle of who you are as a man.